I wrote this on a fellow blogger’s site and he suggested more readers might enjoy it…..

His question was…..where did you find solitude……(after relating his own experience)


I find solitude every day in the times that all is silent around my apartment – especially noticeable on a Sunday.



Just the sound of birds chirping and caw-cawing, the occasional whisper of the wind in the tree tops outside, and very faintly, the low drone or hum of a plane occasionally, almost like thunder as it rolls across the sky.

(This occurs because I live halfway up a steep hill and the sounds of traffic and urban living float over the top without having touched my ears, attuned as I am to the sounds of nature which dominate my senses).

The hum of a plane can be so low you wonder if it was there at all.

For a city dweller it’s a kind of feeling that few would notice. I am enfolded in Solitude’s cloak regularly, but not the solitude you would find in the wilderness.



At this time of year, the constant tiny cheep of young chicks in nearby nests reminds me I’m never really alone or lonely. I live in Solitude and yet I do not.



Even standing at the local pond on a weekday is a sort of solitude in that no one walks that way at that time.



There’s only ever-widening ripples as the occasional Duck or Teal steps off the bank onto the water surface and in ever-increasing webbed feet strokes, darts in and out of reeds, tiny inlets and then slows to a halt and finds shade in the blistering heat of our afternoon Summer sun.



Tiny flowers sway and dip down in a bow, then spring up a little higher, as a bee, having soaked up the pollen, lifts off with its tiny wings and flies in and around each nearby bloom, before landing once again and pausing in its daily flight pattern.

The new Spring leaves on the Eucalyptus wobble and sway in a meditative dance and then suddenly stop when the wind drops, only to pick up their drooping green ‘feathers’ as the wind re-ignites.


I watch the tiny, almost invisible midges slowly move up the large glass window in front of my desk and know that today is a slow and restful day for Mother Nature, (having done her best over Spring to bring new life to Winter’s decay).

A rare shot made in deep shade, which when cropped and had the shadows lightened in post processing revealed a NEW HOLLAND HONEYEATER (Phylidonyris novaehollandiae) – FROGS HOLLOW NATURE RESERVE


If you only hear Sound, then how do you know Silence. If you only know Heat, how do you know what Cold means. If you only know dark, (like a person born blind), how do you know Light.


The GOLDEN HOUR casts sunlight on some bare weeds along the Maribyrnong River bank


The Joys of Solitude are impossible to understand without having experienced them.


Everything in this life is Impermanent and ever-changing and yet, when you truly know Solitude, time seems to stand still.


25 thoughts on “SOLITUDE

  1. Thanks for sharing this Vicki, it’s lovely. Most of my life I’ve spent more time than not, in various forms of solitude, and know that it’s essential for my well-being. At one time, I lived more purposefully as a hermit, and realised that even those living in crowded cities could be hermits as it’s more a state of mind than necessarily being physically isolated.
    Of course, solitude means one must be comfortable with oneself, and that can be a challenge for those who are used to using distractions to avoid this situation. I find silence comforting.
    These days, I have more of a blend of solitude and social interaction….. yet this too can change…..

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    1. Thank you Eremophila. I love being on my own, but it can be nice to have little chats to fellow nature lovers on my walks. I find solitude immensely calming…..almost a mystical or healing sort of silence (that allows my mind to rest and slow down). I have a friend who also likes being on her own, but its not for everyone. I can never understand why people use their mobile phones constantly. I mean to say, before them, we always waited until we got home from work to talk on the phone once a week with friends. Or we simply used the phone at home to ring and make arrangements to meet face-to-face at a cafe, pub or disco or party.

      I’ve never been one of those females who has to chat and share every little shopping expedition and talk about ‘every shade of lipstick in a store shelf’ (on the phone).

      Sometimes I feel like an alien looking over the planet since mobile phones and other technology was invented.

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      1. I know what you mean Vicki 🙂
        My trips to large centers and cities are so rare, that I really notice the changes in people’s behaviours. It’s a foreign world to me now…..

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    1. After all your travels and socialising, I can well imagine how you might find it a relief to sink into a comfy couch, with no conversation and noise and reading a cookbook or two, OR making bread and the rhythmic stretching, rolling and kneading in silence. I had a lot of phone, computer and people interaction (face-to-face) in my last job and couldn’t wait to get home to the ‘sound of silence’

      First thing I’d do in the warmer months when I got home from work, would be change clothes, get the broom out and sweep the fallen leaves off the side path and then……….talk to the plants I was growing or seedlings I was nurturing 🙂

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    1. Thank you for the lovely comment Ted.

      I used to write a lot (including poetry and health articles for a short while), but now I have intermittent Brain Fog/Memory/Cognitive dysfunction due to one of my chronic health conditions and find there are days when I can’t string a sentence together or spell common words. I can no longer write health articles as I can’t research and summarise. This is nothing to do with ageing. It is a symptom of brain dysfunction. I don’t have a social life either as I tend to lose track of a conversation very quickly and can’t remember what I, or the other person, said.

      That’s why blogging and emailing suit me. I can proofread a dozen times and the Auto Spellcheck picks up some of my grammar errors. Still, the next day when I answer comments, I realise my post often has some funny sentence structure.

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    1. Thanks Terry. I was feeling inspired when I wrote that comment on a fellow blogger’s WordPress site.

      Solitude means different things to different people and you don’t need to travel far physically to appreciate Solitude Mindfully.

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    1. Perhaps its also a lifestyle thing too, Eliza. When I was working in an office environment, I had to more sociable. Now I’m not working, I don’t feel compelled to be among people and modern technology (says she who uses her computer every day).

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  2. Because of the nature of my work, solitude’s been a reality in my life for more than a quarter century — at least, during working hours. And now that both my mother and my dear kitty are gone, solitude at home’s a reality, too. And I don’t mind it at all. I enjoy traveling by myself, and going out and about to photograph the world by myself. I don’t insist on it, and I’ve traveled with others, but I’m not at all averse to just taking off by myself.

    For me, silence and solitude go together. I’ve neither television nor smart phone. I don’t text, and I’m not on social media like Facebook. I just don’t have time for all that — I don’t begrudge others their devices or games, but it’s not my thing. (I wonder – do people even use that phrase any more?)

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    1. I can well understand how you feel, Linda. I remember once saying to some work colleagues over lunch, I didn’t have a video/dvd player, T.V (it was broken at that time), mobile phone, microwave, dishwasher or car. How do you survive they asked? “Easily” I replied. You don’t miss what you’ve never had AND if something breaks and you can’t afford to fix it, you learn to do without.

      But now…… issues and utility breakdowns dictate I have them all (except the car). Being often housebound with pain/fatigue and with limited eyesight to read, means I do watch much more TV & DVDs at the current time, but rarely use the microwave or dishwasher (which happens to be in this rented apartment). I couldn’t do without a computer though, as that is my social interaction and source of bill paying online AND communication with overseas friends. I never text, only to say Yes/No in reply to family or friend who text me to say they’re about to arrive (at my home). I don’t have a smartphone, only a tiny old-fashioned mobile phone (with no internet etc).

      I used to love taking off on my own in my little old car and exploring country towns and nature reserves, but of course in Australia, with our long distances between country towns and cities, one really needs a car to get around in a busy life.

      I don’t have a busy life anymore and I love the freedom to do what I want (when I want).


    1. Thank you, David. (and to think I only knew about 3 bird names when I had to take early retirement in early 2010 🙂 )

      Actually, I probably only knew 3-4 flowers names too, but I know dozens now.


    1. Thank you, Otto. Glad to hear you enjoyed the post.

      I do think its good to have a balance, but I’ve certainly retreated back to the shy, solitary person I used to be as a child since having chronic pain and fatigue (and other inherited and stress-related health conditions). I find socialising tiring now – there’s too much noise, bright lights and strong perfumes for me to be comfortable.

      I have travelled extensively in my youth and learned to be a good communicator in my working life though. I love meeting people from other cultures and countries (as long as they’re not heavy smokers or wear highly perfumed body products – then I can’t breathe) 🙂

      Luckily in my last job, there were 2 colleagues who were also allergic to perfumes and strong chemicals, so that helped me in some ways.

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